As an FBI agent working counterintelligence cases, I learned that ignoring problems in investigations will not make them go away. They must be worked through and not allowed to become a barrier in finding the answer.
Working through problems is not limited to FBI investigations. Breaking through the barriers that show up in life and business takes mental toughness to face them so you can manage your emotions, behavior, and thoughts in a way that will set you up for success.
In our country, barriers are synonymous with failure and shame. Barriers are things to be avoided so we can keep moving toward our goal. Contrary to how we think about problems and barriers, they are not the problem—it is the way in which we respond to them that holds us back.
The way in which we look at barriers is as important to living a full life as is how we pursue meaningful activities and build healthy relationships. No matter our age, our mental toughness is created by our ability to cope with the challenges of life.
Here are 5 powerful ways strong minds use mental toughness to break through your barriers:
1. Create The Will To Move Forward
Strong minds use mental toughness to light a fire in their belly—and fight back!
How you handle your fears will ultimately determine where you go and what you do with your life. It is your choice to live fully—or be incapacitated by the fear of the challenges and barriers that are inevitable if you plan to move forward.
A desire to fight back keeps you in control. The key is to acknowledge your fear by confronting it face to face. This tactic robs fear of its power.
2. Stop Pretending It Doesn’t Matter
Strong minds acknowledge that moving through a barrier to reach a goal is important to them!
Admitting defeat to a barrier means we are acknowledging limitations, but more often than not, barriers are those things in life we come across that are simply self-limiting beliefs about what we can or cannot do.
Our first reaction is to pretend crashing through the barrier isn’t important—we make up excuses for our failure. We maintain the illusion that the walls surrounding us are not really keeping us imprisoned or in a rut.
Remember, the only difference between a coffin and a rut are the dimensions.
3. Learn To Kick Butt
Strong minds create the confidence they need to kick butt!
Many people never break through barriers to live a fuller life because they lack the confidence to do so. Lack of confidence holds many people back simply because they don’t think they’re ready. The truth is that nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.
Opportunities and barriers are two sides of the same coin: they force us to stretch ourselves and our comfort zones, which means we may not always feel confident at first.
Confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable or being too scared to move forward. The more confidence you have in yourself, the more likely you are to succeed.
4. Embrace The Life That God Has Given You
Strong minds find the positive aspects of their situation!
- Sometimes things must change so you can change.
- Sometimes you must break a little so you can peek inside to see the power of your own life and story.
- Sometimes mistakes must be made so wisdom can be earned.
- Sometimes rejecting barriers and obstacles is to reject life itself.
5. Push Through
Strong minds push through the problems, obstacles, and barriers in their life.
Every aspect of growth arrives outside of your comfort zone. Have the courage to move forward if the risks feel right. Stretch yourself even if it means feeling uncomfortable.
Barriers are things to push against to grow stronger.
If you’re not a little bit uncomfortable on a daily basis it means you’re not growing. If you’re not a little bit scared everyday, you’re not learning. And when you’re not learning, you’re done.
If you expect life to be easy, challenges will seem difficult. If you accept that challenges may occur, life will be easier.
How have you broken through your barriers?
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