Archive for June, 2012

9 Ways You Can Become Empowered

Saturday, June 30th, 2012

You can become empowered by understanding your brain’s amazing ability to process complex information.

Your brain’s ability to bring order out of chaos and place people, words, and behavior into patterns that make sense can also work against you. Below is a paragraph that raced across the Internet a few years back:

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This valuable ability to seek out patterns is an excellent example of how our focus on the “big picture” can leave us missing important details. Our intellectual strength represents a liability when it leads us to miss something that we might have otherwise noticed. It can be a built-in limitation if we’re not aware of it.

Similarly, the inward journey of empowerment can be blindsided if the lens through which we look at ourselves is distorted so that important details about our personalities are buried or obscured from our awareness. As we strive to be more authentic in the way we live our life, we must also cultivate a high degree of self-awareness. This includes becoming aware of our strengths, weaknesses, talents, skills, emotions, attachments, desires, and habits.

You become empowered as you become more self-aware about the important details about your own life. When you’re asked about who you are, you probably provide details such date of birth, place of birth, address, employment, and social security number. Truth is, that is nothing more than a legal description. To answer from a place of self-awareness indicates you’ve done a lot more work—digging down and excavating the significance of your own stories and experiences to uncover the hidden jewels of your personality, and not being satisfied with statistics put down on a piece of paper.

You become empowered as your awareness of decisions, choices, and habits is heightened. Each time you act out of anger, you strengthen your mind’s anger response; the only way to stop this negative pattern of behavior is to recognize it as an emotion that does not produce the best results for you.

You become empowered when you act out of kindness because you are strengthening your mind’s “kindness” response. As you become more aware of which of your responses are triggering the better choices for you, you become empowered. If you are not aware, negative responses will tend to perpetuate themselves and you’ll most likely find yourself repeating them—even though they are not productive.

As you get to know yourself, it will mean letting go of addictions, negative emotions, and fear-based behaviors so you can replace them with actions that are based on principles, values, and strengths. This is the essence of an empowered leader with a strong mind.

Here are nine things you should know about yourself to help you become empowered:

  1. You live for a higher purpose – empowerment is wise and discerning.
  2. You nurture yourself and others – empowerment is compassion for yourself and others.
  3. You develop yourself and set an example for others – empowerment places value on yourself and others.
  4. You let go of the past and are renewed by your experiences – empowerment is forgiving and uses everything in life for growth and renewal.
  5. You observe yourself and others without judgment or expectations – empowerment is engaged with reality and the richness of the world
  6. You believe in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – empowerment is courage to deal with life under all circumstances.
  7. You celebrate your existence and share your happiness – empowerment is happy to add the richness of experience with everyone.
  8. You stand up for yourself and speak out for what you believe – empowerment is strong and capable of affecting the world in many different and positive ways.
  9. You bring peace and healing into your world – empowerment is an inexhaustible font of serenity, acceptance, and kindness in the world.

When leaders are empowered, they find their strength comes from the core of their being. As you journey inward, don’t miss the important details about yourself that allow you to be the leader you were meant to be.

What is your greatest strength? What is something that you have found out about yourself?

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