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Monday, October 3rd, 2011
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe receive updates via email. Thanks for visiting - LaRae. Predicting threats used to be easier. In the old days, it was enough for business to look to competitors to see the direction of the future. Those days are gone.
The events surrounding 9/11 introduced a new term—asymmetrical. Asymmetry describes something that is irregular and contrary to the rule of general practice. It’s something having no balance.
It is also less predictable.
9/11 showed us what an asymmetrical terrorist threat could look like. In the same way, technology is changing our world so fast that the biggest threat to your business may not even come from within your own industry. (more…)
Tags: business, new business, new clients, opportunities, predictability, Prediction, threat, threats, Warning system, weak ties
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Sunday, September 25th, 2011
Article first published on www.linked2leadership.com
President John F. Kennedy once said, “Ask not what your country can do for you. Ask what can you can do for your country.”
What makes this phrase so compelling is that it draws from one of the simplest rules of human behavior:
In order to get something, we must first learn to give.
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Tags: favors, Federal Bureau of Investigation, gifts, human behavior, Inaugural address of John F. Kennedy, indebtedness, obligation, persuasion, reciprocity, Reciprocity (social psychology), successful leaders
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Monday, September 19th, 2011
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Deep connections with people take time and energy. They are essential, but when it comes to getting a job or expanding business, research has found that weak ties are more effective than strong ones.
Strong ties represent people you already know and probably see quite often. This includes family and close friends. They occupy a great deal of your time and since you know them well, they are not likely to know much more about business prospects, cutting edge technology, and emerging markets than you do.
The Strength of Weak Ties
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Tags: building bridges, Facebook, Google, information networks, Interpersonal ties, new clients, social media, Social network, social networks, the strength of weak ties, Twitter, weak connections, weak ties
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Tuesday, September 13th, 2011
What does a perfectionist look like? Bo Derek in the movie “10” will always epitomize a man’s vision of what a perfect woman should look like. Movies and television are great ways for us to explore the physical boundaries of fantasy.
The pursuit of perfect physical attributes will continue to keep plastic surgeons wealthy. But what about those of us who live with the personality of a perfectionist? There are no plastic surgeons to reshape the way we think, or react with others.
However, there are ways we can learn to cope.
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Tags: achiever, Bo Derek, communication, goals, high standards, judgmental, Margaret Thatcher, Meryl Streep, motivation, Perfection, perfectionist, Stephen Covey
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Tuesday, September 6th, 2011
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As a former FBI counterintelligence agent, I’ve spent a lot of time convincing people they could trust me. I needed information from them; in return, they needed to know that I could be trusted to keep my end of the bargain.
The basis of good relationships is trust. If you cannot trust the other person, the relationship does not have a chance of going deeper, whether between parents and children, or bosses and employees.
Requirements for Trust
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Tags: body language, build trust, communication, deceitful, developing trust, good relationships, mirroring gestures, neuro-linguistic, observing others, observing yourself, patterns of speech, requirements for trust, sensory input, trust, trust building characteristics, trustworthy, untrustworthy
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Monday, August 29th, 2011
Article first published on www.linked2leadership.com
Stories of ordinary people overcoming enormous obstacles get our attention. We’re inspired by those who find ways to build the personal strength to achieve the impossible.
As an FBI new agent, I spent sixteen weeks at the FBI Academy. While there were several obstacles for me to overcome, the most grueling also happened to be the one that produced the most sweat—pushups.
Surrounded by buff ex-military and former police officers looking for a career change, I began to question whether I fit in among them. I preferred exercising my mental muscles . . .
For me, gutting out fifty pushups seemed an impossible task.
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Tags: courage, develop strengths, ego, fear, personal strength, risk taking, Self-Image, uncertainty
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Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011
 “I could tell you were an FBI agent by the way you walked,” a man once told me. I had arranged to meet him at a restaurant but had failed to describe myself for him. He stood up the moment I approached the hospitality desk and held out his hand in a greeting.
Many people think I’m Asian when they hear my last name, Quy. Actually, it’s French Huguenot. I knew what the man I was meeting looked like because I had his driver’s license photo. How could he be so sure I was the FBI agent he was waiting to meet simply by my walk?
As it turns out, our gait is our first golden opportunity to impress others.
Evaluating Strangers
Our early ancestors relied upon their ability to recognize people from a distance. They could see a lone figure on the horizon and determine whether they were friend or foe. Now, we’re more apt to recognize the car a person is driving.
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Tags: communication, first impressions, impressing others, posture, slouching shoulders, walk for success
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Monday, August 15th, 2011
Article first appeared in www.Linked2Leadership.com
Sally Field is probably best known for her acceptance speech for Best Actress at the 1985 Academy Awards.
“You like me, you really like me!”
To be liked is more than a popularity contest—it’s to be appreciated for who you are, even when others don’t agree with you.
The Sweet Spot of Likability
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Tags: communication, empathic, likable, likeability, making friends, nonverbal, story telling
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Monday, August 8th, 2011
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We all admire the way James Bond keeps his cool in any situation. By anticipating where the threats will come from, he can keep his eye on the ultimate goal. It’s a formula that leads to success. If only we could predict people’s behavior like a spymaster, we tell ourselves, we could accomplish great things, too.
But let me share a secret: there’s a little James Bond in all of us. All you need to do is carefully observe the people around you—particularly those on your team—and they will tell you everything you need to know about loyalty, hidden messages, and deception.
The Importance of a Good Surveillance
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Tags: Behavior, communication, coping with stress, deception, gut reactions, hidden messages, James Bond, motivation, observing behavior, patterns of behavior, predict behavior, Psychology, Success |
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Monday, August 1st, 2011
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I took my dog, Gus, for a walk a couple of weeks ago. We were on a local trail and he was wandering around off-leash sniffing at every bush and tree. We were almost home. Gus was ahead of me when I heard a growl. I looked up and saw a pit bull coming down the path toward him. Frantic, I called out to Gus and tried to think of ways I could protect him. Pit bulls are dangerous. Right?
As it turned out, the pit bull’s owner was right behind him and held onto his collar as we passed. The growl was nothing more than a grouchy attitude—he sniffed Gus and walked on.
I just profiled a breed of dog and made a generalization—pit bulls are dangerous. And yet how many of us cringe at the thought of our toddler, or twenty-two pound dog, being left alone with one? (more…)
Tags: communication, generalizations, judgments, persuasion, pit bulls, profiling, rules of thumb, snap judgments, stereotypes
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