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5 Tips To Build A Strong Mindset

Monday, April 17th, 2017

A strong mindset is unafraid of the risks in the unknown. I learned this as a kid growing up in Wyoming while playing among rocks and sagebrush that hid rattlesnakes.

When you are not certain of your environment, it pays to be alert and ready to make sudden changes when confronted with unexpected—whether they are rattle snakes or a volatile stock market.

A strong mindset is open to possibilities. It is constantly on the watch for potential opportunities and it works hard to make them happen. Sometimes, it means being alert to rattlesnakes camouflaged as sagebrush; sometimes it means embracing a different way of thinking about a  career change.

Learning to build a strong mindset is crucial as we encounter changes in the economy or fierce challenges from our competitors. It is a strong mindset that will get us through the challenges we will meet in both business and life.

Here are 5 tips to help you build a strong mindset:

1. BUILD CONFIDENCE ONE SMALL STEP AT A TIME

When I took the physical fitness test at the FBI Academy I was the 1 percent that makes the top 99 percent possible. I failed miserably, so my challenge became twofold: maintaining confidence in myself while training to pass the rigid test.

My confidence plummeted. I worked with a coach at the Academy who taught me the secret to building confidence—take small steps.

By taking steps so tiny that they seem trivial, you can sail through obstacles that you never thought you could defeat. Slowly, you can cultivate an appreciation for the small improvements when they happen. Success builds upon itself, and slowly, it lays down a permanent route to change.

TIP: Small steps are concrete. Mountains are climbed one step at a time, not by giant leaps. You are less likely to feel out of control if you can locate the smaller problems within the larger situation.

My coach encouraged me to acknowledge the small accomplishments and savor them before moving on to the next.

2. EMBRACE YOUR OWN HELL

Everyone’s hell is different. I was scared—if I didn’t get pass the Academy’s physical fitness requirements, I couldn’t become an FBI agent. I needed courage. My strength came from facing the reality of the obstacles in front of me and reaching deep within for the resolve to overcome them. My courage came from facing inward and developing a strong mindset. I told myself:

  • Don’t run
  • Don’t panic
  • Face the situation
  • Believe you can do it
  • Fix it as soon as possible
  • Waiting will only make the situation worse
  • Now is the best time
  • I am the best person

The fear I felt did not weigh me down; instead, it deepened my resolve. A strong mindset is not built on something that is slapped together on a shallow foundation. It needs solid rock—like a skyscraper, the higher you want to go, the deeper you must go.

TIP: Remain alert for both positive and negative changes in your environment. When the negative turns into your own personal hell, look at your obstacles and setbacks as challenges to be met rather than threats to be avoided.

3. COMMITMENT COMES FROM WITHIN

In the deepest part of me I knew that I would make the FBI my career. It wasn’t a stepping-stone to something better that might come along. I was a disciple of my own deep values and beliefs. I had the will to subjugate my feelings to those values.

People are often unsuccessful because they lack commitment to their deepest values. Competence is not an inherited trait, like blue eyes. Competence is the result of working hard and concentrating on bringing about the desired result. No one succeeds overnight; failures do not happen overnight, either. A person who is fully committed can find a creative solution to almost any task.

TIP: Keep these words from Jim Collins in mind: “The best form of commitment comes from a single-minded passion for what they do and an unwavering desire for excellence in the way they think and work.”

4. WHEN YOU TAKE CONTROL, YOU EMPOWER YOURSELF

To be in control means that, through personal struggle, you can find ways to empower yourself and influence both the direction and outcome of your own life. A strong mindset shuts out feelings of fear and inadequacy and focuses on reaching the goal.

I learned a great deal about developing a strong mindset in firearms training. As a shooter, I employed many of the contemplation techniques I used in prayer; emptying my mind of extraneous thoughts and keeping my mind’s eye focused on one thing—the target. And then I narrowed the focus even further so my total concentration was on one thing—the gun sight at the end of the barrel.

Once your mind is quiet, you can challenge the beliefs you hold about yourself that are false or can be changed. Athletes will not improve their performance unless they reach for the goal that is beyond their grasp.

If you settle for mediocrity in yourself, that’s what you’re going to get, so don’t be surprised when your response is not what you had hoped it would be.

Challenge the beliefs you hold about yourself and enlarge your territory.

TIP: When you take control, you empower yourself because you are the one who shapes your destiny rather than passively accepting events as they come along.

5. PURPOSE IS NOT OVER-RATED

I learned from my firearms instructors that if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Live your life with a purpose. No matter how many major changes and transitions you go through in your life, if you rely upon guiding principles and values that are important to you, they will always give your life meaning.

Dr. Benjamin Mays said,

The tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goals, the tragedy lies in not having any goals to reach. It isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfilled, but it is a calamity not to dream. It’s not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideals, but it is a disaster to have no ideals to capture. It is not a disgrace not to reach the stars, but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach.”

TIP: To have a strong mindset, it’s essential that you align your career and life with your deepest values.

Mental toughness is a mindset; it is never too early, or too late, to build a strong one. 

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4 Surefire Ways To Move Through Uncertainty

Saturday, January 23rd, 2016

The FBI requires all agents to qualify with their firearm at least four times a year. Part of this training is taking turns arresting fellow agents and putting them in handcuffs. As I tried to handcuff one of the senior agents on my squad, I found he didn’t have the flexibility to place the back of his hands together behind his back. Over time, he had lost a great deal of the suppleness in his shoulder muscles.

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While he took great deal of ribbing by fellow agents, I remember thinking: “If only he’d made the effort to keep limber, he would have more flexibility.”

If stretching and yoga can promote healthier bodies, we need to find similar ways to keep our mind flexible and agile for top performance. Rigid thinking cannot help us adapt when we are faced with the uncertainty of today’s workplace.

As entrepreneurs, leaders, and business owners, you are required to adapt and move through transitions at faster and faster paces. Whether it is a new assignment, a new supervisor, or a new career—success depends on finding new ways to keep our minds supple.

Mental toughness is the ability to be flexible and agile in the way we respond when faced with the uncertainties of both life and work.

Here are 4 surefire ways you can develop the mindset to move through uncertainty:

1. Overcome Uncertainty By Growing A Little Each Day

When facing uncertainty, you have two choices:

You can dread it because you are afraid of failing—you believe that failure sends a negative message about your abilities, or…

You can anticipate it because you interpret failure as an opportunity for learning and improvement.

The first choice describes a fixed mindset that does best when there is a heavy hand running the show. That way of leading may have been efficient years ago, but today’s leaders are learning that the brain power of their workforce is a terrible thing to waste.

The second choice describes a growth mindset that looks at success as hard work, learning, training, and having the grit to keep moving ahead even when faced with obstacles and roadblocks.

2. Overcome Uncertainty By Discovering What Makes You Feel Strong

As an FBI agent, one of the first things I did was surveil the target of my investigation. I analyzed and assessed their strengths, weaknesses, needs, and wants. This gave me tremendous power, because I usually came to know more about them than they knew about themselves.

Harness that same power by making yourself the target of your own investigation:

a. Discover your own patterns: What makes you smile? What are you always wanting to do or think about? What can you not help do, think, or feel? Even if someone asks you not to?

b. Keep track of how you spend the next week: What are you doing, feeling or thinking about daily? Write down everything that energizes you and makes you feel strong. It could be a particular physical activity, or a book you read, or people you meet. Alongside, write down everything that makes you feel less confident or anxious. How many of these do you encounter at work?

c. Compare the lists: How can you start doing more of the things that make you feel strong? And eliminate those that make you feel threatened?

When you find a few things you repeatedly do and love, dig deeper and see what part of that particular activity makes you feel good—and empowers you.

As you transition out of your current situation or move into a time of uncertainty, lean into those things that make you feel strong and keep a wary eye out for those things that do not empower you.

3. Overcome Uncertainty By Mixing It Up

FBI training is relentless and continuous, but this kept our minds flexible and agile so we could adapt to the unknown when confronting an arrest situation.

When a roadblock or obstacle confronts us, we often have no Plan B. Instead of moving around a roadblock in a deliberate and flexible manner, we continue to assault it using the same tactics that have already proven ineffective. Our default explanation is blaming others.

The only thing worse than getting into a rut is staying in one. Often, our patterns of thinking become rigid because we’re fixated on thinking about achieving our life’s goals in one way.

Mix up the way you think. It’s important to combine focused thought with periods of play and scattered attention because changes in your environment, attitude, and behavior influences how you think.

When you’re feeling happy or optimistic, you are more inclusive and more creative. When you are fearful, your focus narrows down to specific details.

Mental toughness is having the flexibility to make a mental shift without remaining stuck in a particular mindset.

4. Overcome Uncertainty By Summoning The Courage To Try New Things

Finding our courage is no small thing, but once we find it, it takes over everything in its path. A flood of courage is exactly what we need when faced with uncertainty.

The goal is to move fluidly between specific and abstract thought patterns so you can flex and bend with the changing circumstances of your life. Start with making small changes in your routine. Taking the stairs instead of the elevator or listening to different music can boost your mental agility.

Variety is also good. Try different foods and different methods of exercise. Call a friend and go to a place you’ve never visited. Watch your thoughts become more expansive as you break out of old patterns and develop your brain.

A flexible and agile mindset is essential if you plan to get past the roadblocks and obstacles ahead of you. Remember this: everyone can get smarter about how to overcome obstacles if they work at it.

How have you pushed through periods of uncertainty?

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Use Mental Strength To Raise Your Emotional Intelligence

Sunday, September 7th, 2014

As an FBI agent, I was trained to use emotional intelligence to size up a person with just a glance. But here is a secret—you can too, because humans have an amazing capacity to process complex information.

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Our brain has an amazing ability to bring order out of chaos and place people, words, and behavior into patterns that make sense to sense to us. Below is a paragraph that raced across the Internet a few years back:

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Brains have an attention filter that helps us find patterns in information so we know what to pay attention to and what we can safely ignore. In the caveman days, it helped us be alert to predators; in the information age, however, the amount of data that assaults our brain on a daily basis is staggering.

Studies suggest that we now receive five times as much information as we did in 1986. Every day the average person produces six newspapers worth of information compared with just two and a half pages 24 years ago—a 200% increase.

All of this information is competing for resources in your brain, whether it’s important data like medical information and financial updates, trivia updates on sports and hobbies, or emotions like anger and love.

As a leader, do not forget that your emotions originate in your brain alongside your intellect and thoughts. Since the processing ability of your conscious mind is limited, your brain’s attention filter plays a crucial role in seeking out emotional patterns that are important to you. This explains why it’s important for you to sharpen your emotional intelligence skills.

Here are 4 ways you can raise your emotional intelligence:

1. BEWARE OF ALWAYS LOOKING FOR THE BIG PICTURE IN LIFE

Our brain has the ability to focus on the “big picture” stuff in life which is great most of the time, but it can leave you missing important details. Emotional intelligence is being self-aware enough to excavate the significance of the small, but vitally important details of your own life.

When you’re asked about who you are, you probably provide details such date of birth, place of birth, address, employment, and social security number. Truth is, that is nothing more than a legal description. 

To answer from a place of self-awareness indicates you’ve done a lot more work—digging down and excavating the significance of your own stories and experiences to uncover the hidden jewels of your personality, and not being satisfied with statistics put down on a piece of paper.

2. MOVE ON FROM THOSE TIRESOME KNEE-JERK RESPONSES

Emotional intelligence provides us with the self-awareness to choose which responses we want to be stronger and more dominant.

As you become aware of your decisions, choices, and habits, you can identify the ones that produce the best results. Each time you act out of anger, you strengthen your mind’s anger response; the only way to stop this negative pattern of behavior is to recognize it as an emotion that does not produce the best results for you.

Similarly, if you act out of kindness you will strengthen your mind’s kindness response.

As you become more aware of which of your responses are triggering the better choices for you, you empower yourself. If you are not aware, negative responses will tend to perpetuate themselves and you’ll most likely find yourself repeating them—even though they are not productive.

3. LET GO OF THE CRAP THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK

Let go of addictions, negative emotions, and fear-based behaviors. 

As you get to know yourself, you will learn how to replace them with actions that are based on principles, values, and strengths. This is the essence of an empowered leader with mental strength.

4. LET EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE EMPOWER YOU

Emotional intelligence will help you: 

  1. Live for a higher purpose – empowerment is wise and discerning.
  2. Nurture yourself and others – empowerment is compassion.
  3. Develop your skills and set an example for others – empowerment places value on people.
  4. Let go of the past and are renewed by your experiences – empowerment is forgiving and uses everything in life for growth and renewal.
  5. Observe yourself and others without judgment or expectations – empowerment is engaged with reality and the richness of the world
  6. Believe in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – empowerment is courage to deal with life under all circumstances.
  7. Celebrate your existence and share your happiness – empowerment is happy to add the richness of experience with everyone.

Emotional intelligence empowers leaders because it allows them to dig deep within themselves and lead from a place of mental strength and strong heart.

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The One Question That Will Lead To Self-Awareness

Monday, October 29th, 2012

A friend of mine is going through a time of uncertainty right now. She has sent her teenage son to a semester at a wilderness training camp in Montana in an attempt to teach him self-awareness, values and discipline.

She came to the conclusion that this was the best, perhaps only, course of action after a series of truancy incidents at school, slipping grades, and warning by the local police department that her son was observed in the company of drug dealers with long arrest records.

Worse, his attitude towards family and friends had changed. No longer the friendly outgoing kid, he had morphed into a somber and isolated young man who never shared his thoughts or articulated plans for his future.

She asked herself, “Why is this happening to me?” As a single parent, she had tried to be responsible, loving, and caring.

Desperate for perspective, she turned to the ancient book of the Bible. In Exodus 15, the Bible tells the story of the wilderness experience of the Jewish people. They were led by a man called Moses to escape slavery in Egypt, and began their journey to freedom through the wilderness. It started out as a short journey, but it dragged on for forty years.

In the Bible story, the Jewish people exhibited behavior that was akin to the behavior exhibited by my friend’s son. They were ungrateful, critical, hurtful, and full of spite toward Moses and God, even though they had been delivered from years of slavery in Egypt.

Readers of the biblical incident often find themselves critical of the people in the wilderness—they resembled spoiled children! The writer of this account wants his audience to criticize them because it’s like walking into a room and noticing a huge, ugly painting on the wall. Up close, however, the ugly painting turns out to be a mirror. The writer uses the wilderness experience as a way of illustrating that it takes time for us to focus on how to make things go right instead of complaining about why they went wrong.

My friend realized she had been asking the wrong question all along. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” she was able to ask the one question that could change her life:

“How can this make me a better person?”

Where she was going was not as important as the self-awareness of who she was becoming. Her focus changed, and instead of dwelling on the negative, she looked for the positive in her situation.

Most people criticized my friend for her decision to send her son to wilderness training. “What about therapy?” they asked. “Try changing schools.” “You are treating him like a criminal.” At first, the vitriol behind the comments was hard to accept, but she recalled the image of the ugly painting that turned into a mirror. This insight gave her the mental toughness to march ahead despite the criticism. She used the right question to evaluate and enlarge her understanding of her environment.

Like my friend, the answers we get are often determined by the questions we ask. If we ask bad questions, we will get bad answers. If we ask empowering questions, we will get better answers because they will help us develop the self-awareness to understand how to react in positive ways to different situations that we will face in business and life.

If you are going through a difficult, uncertain time, here are better questions you can ask yourself to create more self-awareness:

1. CHANGE OF FOCUS QUESTIONS LEAD TO SELF-AWARENESS:

  1. What is something new that I observed today?
  2. What is something new that that I experienced this week?
  3. What would I like to accomplish in the next 12 months?
  4. What do I need to do today to make that happen?

2. CHANGE OF ATTITUDE QUESTIONS LEAD TO SELF-AWARENESS:

  1. Who is the happiest person I know?
  2. Who are the people I like and respect the most? Why?
  3. What are three new things I am thankful for each day?
  4. Can I describe one positive experience I’ve had each day?

3. CHANGE OF DIRECTION QUESTIONS LEAD TO SELF-AWARENESS:

  1. What do I truly love?
  2. What am I good at?
  3. What brings me satisfaction?
  4. What was the road I did not take in life?
  5. Is that road still beckoning me?
  6. What would that road look like today if I did take it?

Where you are going is not as important as who you are becoming.

Asking yourself the right questions to develop self-awareness can empower you to change the direction of your life.

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How To Triumph Over Obstacles

Sunday, August 12th, 2012

I learned how to triumph over obstacles at the age of eleven. I rode my bike on a cow trail east of our ranch house in Wyoming. I sped along at a good clip, too fast to notice a coiled rattlesnake on the other side of rock—until the snake struck out at full length.

My bike flipped, and as I landed, I felt dozens of pricks all over my arms and hands. My mind raced with fear because I thought the rattlesnake had bitten me. We lived on a remote ranch in the mountains and it was a two-hour drive on dirt roads to a hospital. At eleven, I prepared myself to die of snake poisoning.

Right about the time I was mourning the loss of what could have been a spectacular life, I noticed that I had landed in a pile of cactus. The wreck of my bike told me the rest of the story—the snake had struck the spokes of the front wheel and was now struggling to get out of the broken and bent spoke wires.

My first instinct was to run home to safety, but my parents had taught me that if I wanted to triumph over obstacles, I couldn’t run away from adversity. Living on a remote ranch meant that I had to be ready to face a crisis on my own because there would not be anyone else around to fight my battle for me. The first thing I did was find a good sized rock and make sure that particular rattlesnake would never terrorize my cow lane, or any other, again.

Then I loaded the bike on my shoulders and carried the sorry mess home.

Years later, as an FBI agent, I realized that our reaction to adversity plays a big role in determining how strong minds are formed and resilience developed. New research suggests that resilience to adversity in our life may be linked to how often we face it. The number of blows a person has taken may affect their mental toughness more than any other factor.

This is the same lesson faced by the early Christians who were being thrown into dungeons by the Romans. The apostle Paul wrote the following in his letter to the Romans: “We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character, and character, hope.” (Romans 5:3-4).

It seems the School of Hard Knocks has been around awhile.

Adversity and challenges force us to:

  • Cope with our situation.
  • Learn about our own capabilities.
  • Identify our support networks

A person with a strong mind is someone who can predict the way they will respond to unpredictable situations where events do not unfold according to plan. They can look back at how they’ve responded to situations in the past, learn from those experiences, and apply that knowledge to future ones. In other words, they are resilient and know how to bounce back after a traumatic event.

Adversity empowers you with the confidence that you can come out of any situation. Here are a few tips to help you triumph over obstacles:

Tip #1 OVERCOME YOUR FEARS

My first reaction to the rattlesnake was a healthy dose of fear. At some point, however, I had a choice of letting that fear control me. If it did, it meant I ran home and waited for my parents to take care of both the snake and my bike. If I didn’t let fear control me, it meant I got myself out of the situation using my own resources.

Develop an understanding of your fear. Chances are good that your fear comes from feelings of insecurity  you may have about yourself. It takes courage to look inwardly into the darkest part of your personality. Often, there is a child with an unfulfilled need. Find someone you can trust, and who respects you, and discuss the source of your fear.

Tip #2 TAKE RISKS

Even though I grew up on a cattle ranch in Wyoming, I had never shot a gun in my life before entering the FBI Academy. I took a risk that I would get through firearms training and find my new life rewarding. I quit my job, sold my car, and placed my future in the hands of the FBI. It was one of the best risks I’ve ever taken.

Move outside your comfort zone. When was the last time you took a risk? We get too comfortable in life, whether it’s business or family, and stay there because it feels safe—and comfortable. We settle. When was the last time you took a risk? Don’t let a crisis be the first time you move outside of your comfort zone. Learn now to triumph over obstacles—before you really need to.

Tip #3 PRACTICE

The coaches at the FBI Academy drew a bead on me the minute they learned I couldn’t do push-ups. My life suddenly became centered on the gym and the FBI’s physical fitness requirements. This was an important time to triumph over obstacles because if I didn’t quality, I wouldn’t graduate from the academy—I had taken a risk and quit my job. I spent eighteen weeks struggling but in the end, I made it. Building a strong mind is a little like building strong muscles; it cannot develop without exercise. It breaks down when overworked. It weakens when not practiced enough.

Triumph over obstacles by embracing challenges rather than finding ways to avoid them.

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9 Ways You Can Empower Yourself

Saturday, June 30th, 2012

You can empower yourself by understanding your brain’s amazing ability to process complex information.

Your brain’s ability to bring order out of chaos and place people, words, and behavior into patterns that make sense can also work against you. Below is a paragraph that raced across the Internet a few years back:

Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn’t mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be at the rghit pclae. The rset can be a toatl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe.

This valuable ability to seek out patterns is an excellent example of how our focus on the “big picture” can leave us missing important details. Our intellectual strength becomes a liability when it leads us to miss something that we might have otherwise noticed. It can be a built-in limitation if we’re not aware of it.

SELF-AWARENESS IS KEY

Your efforts to empower yourself can be blindsided if the lens through which you look is distorted by your lack of self-awareness. Important details about your personality is buried or obscured because you don’t look at yourself honestly. If you want to be more authentic in the way you live your life, you must also cultivate a high degree of self-awareness. This includes becoming aware of your strengths, weaknesses, talents, skills, emotions, attachments, desires, and habits.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE

You empower yourself as you become more self-aware about the important details about your own life. When you’re asked about who you are, you provide details such date of birth, place of birth, address, employment, and social security number. Truth is, that is nothing more than a legal description. If you answer from a place of self-awareness, it means you’ve done a lot more work—you’ve dug down and excavated the significance of your own stories and experiences. In the process, you uncover the hidden jewels of your personality, and not being satisfied with statistics put down on a piece of paper.

UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS

You empower yourself when you understand your emotions. Mental toughness is controlling your emotions, thoughts, and behavior in ways that set you up for success.

We all know what it feels like to let our emotional brain take over our rational thinking brain. Each time we act out of anger, we strengthen our mind’s anger response; the only way to stop this negative pattern of behavior is to recognize it as an emotion that does not produce the best results for us.

KINDNESS IS A STRENGTH

You empower yourself when you act out of kindness because you are strengthening your mind’s “kindness” response. As you become more aware of which of your responses trigger the better choices for you, you empower yourself. If you are not aware, negative responses will tend to perpetuate themselves and you’ll most likely find yourself repeating them—even though they are not productive.

As you get to know yourself, it will mean letting go of addictions, negative emotions, and fear-based behaviors. Replace them with actions that are based on principles, values, and strengths. This is the essence of an empowered leader with a strong mind.

9 WAYS TO EMPOWER YOURSELF:

  1. Live for a higher purpose – empowerment is wise and discerning.
  2. Nurture yourself and others – empowerment is compassion for yourself and others.
  3. Develop your strengths and set an example for others – empowerment places value on yourself and others.
  4. Let go of the past – empowerment is forgiving and uses everything in life for growth and renewal.
  5. Observe yourself and others without judgment or expectations – empowerment is engaged with reality and the richness of the world
  6. Believe in yourself and trust in the goodness of life – empowerment is courage to deal with life under all circumstances.
  7. Celebrate your existence and share your happiness – empowerment is happy to add the richness of experience with everyone.
  8. Stand up for yourself and speak out for what you believe – empowerment is strong and capable of affecting the world in many different and positive ways.
  9. Bring peace and healing into your world – empowerment is an inexhaustible font of serenity, acceptance, and kindness in the world.

When leaders are empowered, they find their strength comes from the core of their being. As you journey inward, don’t miss the important details about yourself that allow you to be the leader you were meant to be.

What is your greatest strength? What is something that you have found out about yourself?

© 2015 LaRaeQuy. All rights reserved.

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