Posts Tagged ‘self-awareness’

Have You Found the Great Leader in You?

Thursday, December 15th, 2011

Finger pointing

Image via Wikipedia

Good leadership begins with you. Everyone talks about developing good leadership skills. The truth is that the only person who can really teach you how to be the best leader is . . . you.

It’s tempting to rely on an expert to show you how to mine the hidden truths about good leadership. The bookshelves are stuffed with leadership assessments and techniques. They can all add value but they cannot answer the most important questions: Who are you and what do you believe?

No expert can tease those answers out into the open except you, no matter how much money you spend or how hard they try. A lack of self-awareness and self-knowledge produces a leader who is grounded only in the latest model or theory—a little like switching religion when the going gets tough or when something better comes along. (more…)

Rattlesnakes and Growing Up Skinny in Wyoming

Thursday, September 2nd, 2010
Baja California rattlesnake (Crotalus enyo eny...
Image via Wikipedia

A ranch in Wyoming can be a rough place to grow up. I played on a rockslide that had stabilized over the years, discovered abandoned whiskey stills from the 1930’s in rough mountain terrain, and wore lace-up boots to prevent rattlesnakes from biting my feet and ankles. Of course, if it bit anywhere higher on my leg, I was on my own so I learned to be alert. And fast. A coiled rattlesnake can only strike the length of its body so if I saw it first, those lace-up boots could also burn rubber in the opposite direction.

I grew up skinny. And not just from running away from rattlesnakes. Every day after school I played for a few hours before I did my chores, or until it got dark. I walked down the river and constructed my own version of Fort Courage—remember the 60’s comedy show F Troop—from a small grove of willow trees, bits of driftwood, and a good dose of imagination. I found small tree limbs that could be carved into rifles, set up a general store substituting rocks for canned goods, and climbed up to an overhang of rocks that made a perfect lookout for marauding Indians. It was a busy life.

I also grew up with a respect for hard work and a belief that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing well. I learned there is a difference between being strong-willed and being strong-minded—in a nest of rattlesnakes, one can cost you your life while the other can save it. A strong mind, unafraid of the risks in the unknown, led me from the mountains of Wyoming to the FBI Academy in Quantico, Virginia.

Let me share my rattlesnake survival tactics:

(more…)

Guns, Yoga, and Inner Strength

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010
Viv was held hostage by her ex Reg. (1994)
Image via Wikipedia

On July 30, 2010 a homeless man armed with a loaded gun burst into the emergency room of Children’s Hospital in Oakland, CA. He grabbed a female employee and shoved the .38 caliber revolver into her stomach as he shouted for everyone to back away. After several minutes, police officers showed up with rifles and the man put down the gun. The employee who was taken hostage was not hurt, but several other hospital employees were so distraught that they were sent home for the rest of the day. By contrast, several of the other employees volunteered to extend their shift to get hospital services back to normal.

I know first hand how difficult it is to predict your response in a crisis situation.

glock - DSC00646_72dpi
Image by kevindean via Flickr

(more…)